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How Childhood Influences Your Love Choices Unraveling the Connection

How Childhood Influences Your Love Choices Unraveling the Connection




When looking for love, it's common for people to choose partners who they share hobbies with, find good-looking, or dream about the same kind of future. But there's a big piece of the puzzle that often gets overlooked: the role of our childhood. Some of us pick a partner just because of that first spark, thinking we can shape them as we go. But the truth is, the way we were raised really shapes our choices and what we're looking for in love.

The Past is Powerful

Both men and women can sometimes forget how much a person's childhood plays into who they are today. Thinking we can change someone or hoping love will magically fix deep-seated problems is hopeful, but it might not always work out. What one person gives in love might not be what the other person needs, especially if they grew up in tough times.

Imagine someone who grew up in a home where things were always uncertain or unstable. When they're looking for love, they might unknowingly look for relationships that have that same kind of chaos. It's not because they don't like peace or calm, but because that chaos feels familiar to them. It's like an old song that brings back memories. But someone who grew up in a happy, peaceful home? They're more likely to look for, and give back, love in a way that's healthy and steady.


Old School Matchmaking: Lessons from Arranged Marriages

Now, let's talk about arranged marriages. Sure, to many of us, it might sound like something from the past. But there's something we can learn from it. In arranged marriages, it's not just about the couple; it's about joining two families that share the same values and ways of life. This way, the couple already has a lot in common, especially when it comes to their childhoods.

In today's world, where we all value our freedom to choose, there's still some wisdom in getting some input from family when choosing a partner. Families can offer a fresh view, helping see beyond the initial excitement and thinking about the long run, based on shared values.


The Takeaway

Our past plays a huge part in our relationships. It shapes how we see things, what we do, and who we choose to be with. While sparks and chemistry are awesome, being understanding and accepting of each other's pasts is even more important.

It's not about saying love marriages are bad or pushing for arranged marriages. It's about realizing that our past experiences, and the lessons from those who care about us, can guide us to find love that lasts and stays strong.

By Sandra Da Silva on 2nd September 2023

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